my name is mark and i am 25 years old. at the momment i am experiencing a tremendous amount of conflict in my family and i feel like it is poisoning the relationships i am attempting to foster with others. i really want to be a great guy and right now i feel that is being inhibited by the way i handle my anger. for many years i have been a swallower, i simply get mad and gobble it down really fast until i suppose my belly got full and i couldn't swallow another bit. so i have been a bit of a loose cannon these days.if you can offer any good reading material it would be most appreciated and any tip pointers on how to work on it are definantly welcome.
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At the end of each day, write out things that bothered you this day. It can (and should) include everything from a big fallout with significant people in your life, to the person who cut you off in traffic. The first time I did this list it was 27 items long. In this community I will post a "Bothers Me" post each day and you can reply in a comment with your list. This is not a place to comment on others' bothers-me lists, but a place to put your own. This is meant to be a self-reflective exercise, so please don't be offended if I delete any replies to what others have posted in their lists. For now, I will make the lists public so people can see how this is supposed to work. If at sometime in the future people feel it would be better to have the list "friends only" then I will do that. You should do this exercise (with no others added) for at least a week to get the hang of it. Trying to incorporate too many of the disciplines too soon can detract from what you need to learn by doing each discipline wih focus.
I've learned some pretty amazing tools for making my anger work for me and I thought it would be great to find like-minded people willing to work through the disciplines with me. The disciplines are daily activities and can be as long or as short as you want them to be. They include: keeping a "bothers me" account (daily); doing an anger workout (daily); establishing relationships with people who are willing to tell you the truth even if it's something you might not enjoy hearing (a part of what I hope this community can provide); and more. If you are interested in knowing more, please submit a request to join and as time goes by I will add a description of each of the disciplines and we can begin working on them together. (These tools were created by Dr. Mark Robinson of the Center for Creative Conflict Resolution.)